the day i was promoted to be a JANDA

13th July 2006, a new title was added to my life. And after 15 years of what I thot was a happy marriage (obviously i was wrong lah), I was promoted to a JANDA... promoted seyyy... betul ape. U got to be married first before getting the JANDA aka DIVORCEE title kan kan kan??? even how much i was against having this title, i was destined with it.

It just happened a few hours ago, I was in the court together with him and our lawyers for the judgment day. My lawyer, Jailani, is a sweet guy. He didnt want me to be embarrassed while waiting for our case to be mentioned cos at the syariah courtkan like polyclinic u know full of people seyyy. He requested me to wait for his call in the car and when my case is up, then he will call me to proceed to the court. Sweetkan, very thotful of him.

The kadi took the judge stand and we proceeded with our case. this was my first time in the syariah court as my lawyer handled all previous hearings, no need for me to attend. Can u imagine how i felt during that time? Im going to lose him, thats wat i told myself.. but then my devil side said, oiiii babe, u lost him long time ago lahhh. The kadi announced that My LIFE was seeking for divorce due to incompatible reason and he is also asking for his shares from the matrimonial assets.

Makk aiii!!! what shares he thinks he deserved to get??? All that savings were from my salary. His salary was not enuf even to cover the household and kids expenses, and now he wants to talk about sharing the assets. Harloowwww, how about sharing the sufferings that u have caused towards the kids???? U know wat! Tarzan pakai cawat! Nak tulis pen takde dakwat! Last last jadi penjahat! Semoga kau bertaubat dan selalu selawat!!!!!! heheheh rhyme seyyy! At that timekan, I was really furious seyyy.. He just took an oath and started lying soon after that.
He asked for the car, the bike, the savings, the FDs, mine,his n kids insurance policies n he oso requested for our 42inch LCD TV!!! I was stunned siakkk when he asked for the tv. I told him huh?? TV oso u want arr, u crazy or what! I bought the tv for the kids. I seldom watched tv oso. He said well all those assets are under his name, so he should get it. memang memang IM a bloody fool. All of u reading this can say that lerrmaakkkksss, u pay but y u put his name? Well, at that time how will i know he will betray this marriage. He is the head of the family what so obviously i put his name arrr. U all see how much I sayang him and how well I took care of his feelings by putting every assets we own under his name but this stupid fool nani paid for it!!!

Yg really put the nail in the coffin kan.... when the kadi asked him "u hv requested for all the matrimonial assets but what about the other two assets that have priceless value on them?" He blur like a sotong arrr when being asked that. The kadi then put it in layman terms "Semua awak nak, ini dua anak2 ni awak taknak ke?" U know wat he replied "takpe takpe anak2 ni saya kasi dia." Hahahah! my lawyer, me, kadhi and even his lawyer were smiling sarcastically seyyy. I proposed to the kadi arrr that I will prefer for him to have joint custody rather than giving me the sole custody. I pacified him arrr go for joint custody so at least the kids will think that their father fought for them too. But this guy refused my proposal flatly. Well, excellent then! Your loss not mine! May Allah bless u arrrr.

At the end of the day, we couldnt come into an agreement so the kadi has to decide and passed his verdicts. He said if we are not pleased with his verdict, we can appeal. But b4 the verdict was passed, he asked us few questions arrr. Marabbuka? eh takk lah, heheheee!!! Kadi asked me:
1. Were u informed about the divorce b4 receiving the summon from Syariah court? NO.
2. Were you a good wife and a good mother? Ive replied "to describe that whether im good that is under-rated, im an EXCELLENT wife and mother. hehhehee... see how confident i am. Betul apeee!!!
3. During the 15 years of marriage, have u at any time suspect that if he had an affair? No. I dont believe till now that he has affair. Tolol kan aku???
4. Did he lafazkan talaq? No n not that i know of.

Then his turn:
1. You gone through 15 years of marriage, y didnt u discuss w yr wife your intention to divorce her? No reply fm him.
2. R u having an affair now? No, of course not.
3. Your reason for divorcing is that u r not compatible. Please tell me in what way u find incompatible. No reply fm him too.

Waliao ehhh, how to receive replies from him when he himself could not find my fault.
Court recess for 15mins and then the verdict came. The judge told him to lafazkan talaq to me. U know what i did??? While he was pronouncing the talaw, I put my hands and cover both ears and humming to myself so till now ive didnt hear the talaq. But anyway the talaq dah jatuh arrr cos the intention was there kan. Furthermore, the kadi, the two lawyers and the police court heard it so sah lerrrr.

Then kadi said I will pronounce the divisional of the matrimonial assets. This was the time that I felt my whole body tremor and nervous. The kadi started by saying:
"Awak telah menceraikan isteri awak dengan talaq satu walaupun istri awak tidak memohonkannye. Oleh kerana isteri awak ialah seorang isteri yg TERANIAYA, awak dikehendaki membayar edah dan mutaah yg tinggi jumlahnye" Yeeehhhhhhhh!!!!!!! Berpuluh ribu seyyy I got for that alone. The matrimonial assets such as fd, savings, policies to be cashed out, car and my sought after LCD TV were given to me. Yessssssss!!! Even his bike, he has to pay me 50% of what we had forked out for deposit. I got $3K from that. Of course, sole custody for the kids too. Bodoh punye orang!

You should see the look on his face. Punyelah gloomy and dark!!! God is always with the Truthful one! Allahu'akbar! Court session ends and we can collect our decree nissii (diploma in broken marriage lah) three weeks later. We left of course separately.
I went to my car and sat for a while. Tadah tangan and mohon kepada allah that everything is settled now and i need Allah's help to guide me in my new life. Took a deep breath and drove home.

Not a shed of tear dropped. I guess i was too hurt and too much disappointment to shed any tears for a man who i pledged my heart and soul to. He is not worth of my tears.

Dear all

hiiiiii!!!!! ive been keeping an online diary since 2006 and decided to publish them in my personal blog ..... well, there's always a first time for everything.... :)

Why "bettyBoobs" the chosen nick to identify myself? Well, my favourite cartoon character happens to be BettyBoops, shes suave, sexy and full of mystery. Hopefully, im like her lah. Of course, Ive bigger boobs than Betty and thus to differentiate me from Betty, I nicked myself BettyBooBs. hahahaha!!!!

The past two years have been a horrendous years for me. My Life crashed on me but i moved on. There's many MYs in my blog and hopefully by penning it down, i will feel better.